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Skills you need as a mother

I don’t know about you and what happens in your house, but in my house we all have different skills sets.   Gerhard is responsible for holidays, booking, paying and actually getting us there.   I pack, clothes for flying holidays, clothes and food and medical supplies for self-drive holidays.   I buy groceries and direct Sekai what to cook when, Gerhard does a mean braai and he makes delicious curry and pasta.   I tend to do most of the shopping in the house, Gerhard has to buy cars.   You catch my drift. For my sins I seem to be responsible for IT…please note that I do not possess any specific IT skills.   For some reason I just seem less afraid of embracing technology.   As a working mother I don’t have a lot of free time.   Weekends are for shopping (groceries and clothes for the kids mostly).   This past weekend was spent setting up Liam’s Xbox.   The poor kid saved up forever to buy a new Xbox.   Gerhard had to work on Saturday, so the kids and I set off to buy the said Xb
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